Ego?

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"EGO", a  very strong word, for those who believes, it is the most important thing in one's life. Some thinks it cure one's self confidence, other thinks it destroys. This three letter word holds many meanings, many explanations and justifications to different individuals in different aspects. But here I want to discuss the effects of "ego" in a relationship. It is that word, which holds you back from saying things, your heart is dying to say, "I love you", "I miss you", "Yes, I need you".

You give too much importance to the inner ego, that you forget when to love, how to love. You have enough self pride, self respect, dignity to open up your feelings to your loved ones, right? But, just think for a moment, if you loose your partner, if you loose the reason of your happiness, you loose the care and love you have dreamed, then can you live with all that ego and pride? those will be then useless. Don't let your relationship go, just because you think you are the only person who is right. Are you? I don't think so. 

Sometimes, among the couples, there goes a huge fight, and the reason is who will say apologize first, whatever the reason is. They so much gets involved in the "egoistic" version of themselves that they forget they love each other and arguing for a simple, meaningless apologize. What you want to prove by letting that person apologise to you? Is that one "sorry" important enough than your relationship? And finally no-one apologise as usual and after some day they gets apart. Happy ending. An egoistic ending. An ending where they proved yes, ego is the main thing than love, than care. But, do you know what's important? The love is important, the happiness and smiles are important. If you apologise to your person, it doesn't mean you are weak, it doesn't mean you lost your self-respect. It means you have a big heart, a heart which gives love, more importance than your ego. That is the time you win against your ego. What else do you need if you are happy, if you can love, if you feel you are being cared.

I made ego as my best companion during the hard times, it kept me organized, taught me to be self-dependent and yes of-course, gave me some attitude. But, only for a limited extent. If you let it go beyond that, then I'm afraid it will end you. I will suggest, having ego is good, it makes you think different from others, but don't get carried away. Too much ego makes a man rude, a man with over attitude, which doesn't fits right I guess.

Ego is a part of you, let the positive side rule your thoughts. Don't get confused with the "ego" and "self-respect", because I know, You won't hurt others, defending yourselves with the term called "Ego". 

"If you value your relationship or friendship, your ego won't stand in the way of a meaningful apology." - Unarine Ramaru